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Comment on WA: Karen Kristine Sudderth Returns to U.S. to Face Kidnapping Charges 12-Years Later by admin

admin — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 13:34:11 +0000

Well, RER, my opinion hasn’t changed. There was no evidence of child abuse and the husband was repeatedly cleared by authorities. She kidnapped their son in willful defiance of a lawful court order. These are not mere allegations - she didn’t simply go on a 12-year vacation with their child. She’s guilty of doing those things whether found so by a jury of her peers or not.

She was offered and accepted a plea deal to avoid much more serious incarceration and the judge rejected the plea deal outright due to the level of contempt shown by Ms. Sudderth.

The dust isn’t exactly settled, but from where I’m sitting and with the limited information available, she made unsubstantiated abuse claims against her ex, kidnapped the child to a foreign land in defiance of a court’s lawful order. She was prepared to admit guilt to avoid more serious felony charges and did so, and it seems the judge isn’t going to let her off the hook “that easily.”

Karen Kristine Sudderth Plea Deal Rejected by Judge

A 180-day sentence for kidnapping a child and effectively ending his relationship with his father is a slap on the wrist. I guess for Karen Kristine Sudderth it’s a very small price to pay for “mission accomplished.”

Comment on WA: Karen Kristine Sudderth Returns to U.S. to Face Kidnapping Charges 12-Years Later by RER

RER — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 04:52:41 +0000

So, admin…. what do you think now? That dust is settling?

Comment on Arizona Contemplates Dramatic Child Support Increases by Brad J.

Brad J. — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:17:23 +0000

Do you have any links regarding this act? Web searching turns up nothing official for a “child support accountability act” in New York. Is this a grassroots petition or something? Thanks.

Comment on Arizona Contemplates Dramatic Child Support Increases by Rick maio

Rick maio — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 13:01:21 +0000

Go to the child support accountability act 2011. It’s a face book site. I understand something is being done in new York.

Comment on Custody Agreements: The Parallel Parenting Plan by If You Can Co-Parent - Do It! | Mr Custody Coach

If You Can Co-Parent - Do It! | Mr Custody Coach — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 11:14:38 +0000

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Comment on Top 10 Commandments of Low-Contact With High-Conflict Personalities by Avoid False Allegations of Domestic Violence and Restraining Orders | Mr Custody Coach

Tue, 06 Jul 2010 20:13:34 +0000

[...] forthcoming. If you relegate all of your communications with your ex-partner to email (or other low-contact methods), this is exceedingly easier. Let all calls go to voice mail and save them. Return the call [...]

Comment on MA: Second Wives Forced to Pay Alimony to First Wives by Connie Brauer

Connie Brauer — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 16:50:19 +0000

This is crazy. This punishes the 2nd wife for falling in love and raising a family.
In Canada where the Family Law System is extremely corrupt, at least the spouse’s income is not considered unless the parent claims undue hardship.
Are we raising a nation of morons? Wives who just have to cry to a judge to be taken care of for the rest of their lives.
I also blame some of America’s celebrities such as Charlie Sheen who is writing marriage agreements that pays a wife for being a wife of 90 days or 6 months.
Good God! Stop this insanity!

Comment on PA: Berks Judges Ask Supreme Court to Keep Indigent Inmates Imprisoned for Failure to Pay by Marvin Bradley

Marvin Bradley — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 13:52:42 +0000

I live in Atlantic County n.j. and we are being incarcerated for child support at a rate of once every 2months.When you are arrested if you can not pay outrageous bails you are usually held for 30 to 45 days.Once released your expected to make a payment within 2 weeks.If this payment is not made you will be issued another bench warrant and incarcerated again.I have no problem with having to pay child support,but i do have a problem with the way this system is run.Most people who are required to pay child support here are ex-felons or people who are basically homeless and some cases both.In an economy where people who have lived a straight and narrow life cant find employment is it fair to expect those who have made mistakes in the past and are trying to correct those mistakes and change their lives,to find a job in 2weeks time.In my opinion i feel this is pushing people who want to live right back to a life of crime.When you constantly live under the threat of incarceration you start to feel very hopeless and desperate.You go out everyday to apply for work and get the same response from every employer,”we will give you a call” which never happens.So no job means you will go back to jail and have any progress you’ve think you’ve made impeded.Something has to change with the child support system as a whole.

Comment on 10 Top Ways to Fight Parental Alienation by Julie Wade

Julie Wade — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 17:20:06 +0000

First of all, my heart goes out to you because I have seen my husband go through similar situation with his ex & kids. While the son (now 20) had minimal contact with his dad, he did come around for a time two years back when my husband’s father passed. The daughter (18) did not come around, refused to come to the funeral, & has maintained that she does NOT want her dad in her life. Yet, she occasionally sends a note full of profanity & disrespect, telling her dad how much she doesn’t need him.

His ex encouraged the kids to stay away & to rebuke their dad at every opportunity, which they have done. We tried keeping in touch by sending gifts for birthdays & Christmas & were never thanked or acknowledged for doing so. In fact, we were told later by the ex that the packages & cards we sent (to their home which is only a half-mile from ours) were trashed, unopened upon receipt. After that, we stopped wasting our money as we did not want to reward the kids’ rudeness. Our feeling, which we’ve maintained, is that we will not “pay” them to be in our lives. My mother-in-law & sister-in-law lavish large checks to these kids to “keep a relationship” with them, but they are in no more frequent contact with these kids than we are. Like ours, their gifts are also not acknowledged but they feel better giving money to the children as opposed to not giving.

Bottomline- You have to decide if you want your relationship with your sons to simply be based upon the money you provide to them, or if you want to try & enjoy a mutually respectful relationship with your boys with money being the icing on the cake. Older kids are NOT innocent victims in these matters…they make the choice to be in touch, involved, and a part of your life or not. Added note-I had to turn my back on each of my kids for brief timeframes in their teens years. They did without their mom for a bit, and then decided they would rather have me in their lives than not. Bless my folks too, for their support, because turning my back was hard but it worked. They told my sons, “We love you but your mom is OUR kid and we love her more!” I did this per a suggestion from my counselor who told me that I needed to stop being so available to my kids.

He said, “they told you to get out of their lives–so let them experience what life is truly like without mom!” Best advice I ever received! I truly think my husbands kids would make a turnaround if his sister & mother weren’t continually rewarding those kids for their horrible behavior.

Best of luck to you. Keep your heart open but guarded, and keep the faith!

Comment on PA: Ben Roethlisberger Falsely Accused of Sexual Assault by Rick

Rick — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 01:51:04 +0000

Having been falsely accused of 10 Felonies, which included sexual assault, I know how it feels, the pain, the loss of respect, the continualyy feeling paranoid, etc etc.

I spent 4 months in a USA prison until the dorensic evidence proved my innocence.

It was tough, it was in July 2008, my life is moving on, but the stigma is still attached… Sure I did morally wrong, yet legally I did nothing wrong.

The ‘Young’ person who accussed me, never had to face the ‘music’, her name was never mentioned.. You have to protect the innocent hey? Yet when she eventually told the truth, she was still protected…

Seems there are 2 laws…